If there’s one thing that gets a lot of couples that are getting ready to get married, it would be the guest list. Remember that when two people get together to get married, there are two sets of friends, two sets of parents, and two sets of grandparents. Of course, you have to also think of all of the friends that are connected to these people. They’re all going to want to be involved in some way in your wedding. Of course, budgets are tight, and resources can be limited. So you have to make sure that you really are thinking about how you will handle everyone without them getting angry with you. A lot of people can get hurt when it comes to getting left off a guest list. It’s important to make sure that you’re taking steps not to alienate people when they just want to be part of your life.
If you can’t have everyone for the wedding, giving out free CD’s with all of the photos is a good idea. You also want to make sure that you try to focus hard on getting some sort of “memory card” that people can save in their records to mark the event. If you make people feel included, then it won’t matter whether they are there or not.
When it comes to negative and destructive people, however, the only thing you can do is be firm. We have seen friends get married and allow negative people to come to the wedding. They would end up criticizing and commenting on everything that they didn’t like. Is that the environment you really want to have on one of the most important days of your life?
It’s up to you to create the type of wedding environment that you desire. Nobody can create it for you. You’re going to most likely have to stand up to people that aren’t necessarily good for you. If they cannot understand that it’s your wedding, you’re better off without them. They’re never going to be happy for you, and they can even go as far as to try to get you away from your spouse. Some people just don’t want to see you happy, but it’s not your fault. You have to move on with your life.
The key points to remember is that a guest list should be filled with people that are going to be happy and supportive of you on your big day. Avoid adding people that are just going to make the day miserable and drag on when it should be a pleasant time for everyone.
If you’re worried about people that are going to be disruptive when they are drunk, you will either need to make sure that you don’t serve alcohol, or that you cut these people from the guest list. It’s the same for anyone that has a lot of children that are going to be too small to be quiet during the event. Believe it or not, you can still stand up to a parent that doesn’t see why they have to leave their child at home. It’s going to be your wedding, on your terms — or nothing at all! Good luck and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!