If there’s one thing that you should give yourself on your wedding day, it should truly be a little bit of peace! Indeed, taking back your power on your wedding day sounds complicated, messy, and stressful…but it’s always worth doing. The reality here is that if you don’t claim your own power, nobody will step up to do it for you. That means that you always need to keep your wits about you. It’s tempting to just assume that you won’t have any problem in the world on your wedding day but you might be surprised.
While your family means well, they tend to want to have things done in a way that’s pleasing to them. You might even have family members that boss around your wedding planner. Wedding planners have truly seen everything and they can handle themselves but it can still be embarrassing to see your mother changing what you have planned out months in advance.
Many brides feel like they are crossing a line when they speak up, because everyone has taken such time and money to see them get married. Still, it’s your day — not theirs. They can say that the wedding is for the family, but if you don’t feel 100% comfortable on the best day in the world for you, then what’s the point?
It’s important to sit down with everyone long before the wedding day and make sure they understand these points. Sure, you might have some hurt feelings but the truth is that you need to focus on what really matters here. Just going with whatever will create less waves is really dangerous. You have to always be thinking about the type of day that you want to have. Your family should love you enough to step out of the way and just let you enjoy it for a change.
A lot of people feel like they shouldn’t confront their family ahead of time, waiting till the last minute instead. That’s the wrong approach because your family will feel pressured and ambushed. Bringing it up a few times well in advance shows them that you really mean what you say, and you’re not trying to be mean. Of course, if they’re really going to misbehave, then there’s no point in having them at the wedding — family or not!
If there’s one mistake that we see a lot of women make, it would have to be the fact that they don’t ask for help on their wedding day. It goes without saying that this is a special day in a woman’s life, and even a man’s life. Why should you get ready to marry someone that you cherish deeply, only to find that you just can’t do everything that needs to be done at the last minute? The purpose of the wedding party (best man, maid of honor) is to help you through these things. However, if you have other people are offering their help, you shouldn’t turn it down. You want to make sure that everything is in place in order to really get you the life that you want in the long run.
You just have to make sure that you find the right balance. If you don’t have a wedding planner, then you really do need to enlist everyone’s help. But even if you do have a wedding planner, you need to get help anyway. The planner can’t do everything herself, and she will need to enlist help somewhere else. If you have a contract with her, the agreement should spell out how she is going to find that help. Don’t feel pressured to make any last minute decisions just because the planner can’t really get things together. That would just be downright awful if you did that, anyway. What’s better than stressing yourself out? Being able to rest knowing that your planner has things together.
Before the wedding even comes up, you need to start talking to people about helping. If they aren’t sure what to give you, or they can’t afford a gift, there’s nothing like volunteering to help out at the wedding. That could mean anything and everything from serving food and drinks to cleaning up all of the trash later. It just depends on what you need and what friends are willing to help you get what you need. If you aren’t concerned and careful, you could end up keeping yourself from a great wedding. Why should you stress and strain when there are plenty of people that can help you?
If you’ve already helped in one of your friends’ weddings, that’s something to bring up. It’s time for you to shine. It’s time for you to have a magic moment. Why wouldn’t you want to get these things done? Good luck!