Getting Your Mind Right on Your Special Day

Last minute jitters? First time nerves? Don’t worry, we understand completely. Getting married is something that means a lot of things to a lot of people. However, one of the top things that it really means is that you get to walk through life with someone. You’re going to have someone that loves you no matter what you do. You’re going to have someone that wants to help you become a better person, and have you help them do the very same. If you want children, then you have someone that’s going to raise them with you. It’s going to be something that tends to make your life light up, and you will not regret it at all. Even people who have gotten married and then had to get a divorce say that they really don’t regret the experience; they just hate the way things turned out.

Don’t look at statistics when it’s time to get married. You aren’t a statistic. There’s nothing that says that you can’t have a long and happy marriage. You just need to make sure that you really do think about all of your concerns before you get to the final moment.

Keeping a journal can be good to relieve stress. It’s hectic, planning a wedding. Trying not to stress about it is one thing, but there are just some conflicts that you can’t help but avoid. The more that you focus on the road ahead, the happier you will ultimately be. On the other hand, it’s not enough to just hope that you’re going to have a great wedding.

A lot of last minute nerves stem from not getting your head in the game. Think about it — you’ve gotten all this way, why not get married? Why not spend your life with someone that’s going to be there for you through all seasons? If you’re worried about tradition — throw it out the window. There’s nothing that says that you have to get a long white dress. If you feel more comfortable in another color, then that’s what you should do. A lot of people run around trying to please everyone, and it ends up just making them feel resentful. Take time to be selfish — it’s better for you in the long run, anyway.

If you’re worried about not being a good spouse to your partner, don’t worry about that. You can talk things over with your spouse to be. They will tell you that if they didn’t want to be married to you, they wouldn’t. As long as the two of you communicate openly and love deeply, what else is there to really worry about? Keep that in mind as you get close to your special day — good luck!